- Eat
a Healthy Diet. What you put into your body can make you feel
energized and light, or sluggish and stressed. A healthy, balanced
diet with plenty of vegetables, protein and whole foods can actually
reduce your stress level, increase your energy, and help your body look and
feel better. This will go a long way toward getting you in the mood.
- Exercise. You
may think you’re too busy or tired to exercise, but exercise can
actually give you more energy, and even 20 minutes three
times a week can make a difference in your energy level and overall
health. You can pilates while you watch T.V., or skip the television
altogether and go for a walk. Either way, your body will feel more
energized, you’ll have more positive hormones flowing in your blood, and
you’ll be happier with your body. These are definite turn-ons.
- Reduce
Obligations In Your Life. If you get organized, prioritize
only important commitments in your life and say no to other
activities that take up your time, you can reduce the overall level of
stress you experience in your life, and you’ll have more
time and energy on your hands and will be less stressed. This all
contributes to a healthy libido.
- Find
Help. I don’t (necessarily) mean therapy, but if you can
hire people to do things that take up time and energy in your life, like
cleaning your house and doing busywork, you’ll also have less to stress
about. It might be more expensive in the short run, but you’ll most likely
be more productive in the long run, which will offset the cost, and you
can spend your time on the things in life you enjoy, like sex!
- Get
Enough Sleep. Sleep deprivation can wreak havoc on your
entire system and make you feel more stressed. If you can’t get enough
sleep at night, you might try a power nap to achieve some of the
same benefits. This could help you have more energy for nighttime
activities.
- Use
Stress Relievers. If you have a regular practice of one or a few
stress-relieving activities like meditation or yoga, you
can reduce the stress and tension you feel in your body and mind
throughout the day. Having some of the weight of tension lifted, you’ll
feel freer and more able to express yourself sexually.
- Have
A Good Laugh. It’s often said that laughter is the shortest
distance between two people. Laughter is also an excellent stress
reliever and delivers great benefits to your body and soul. Try to
unwind with a funny t.v. show or book, or make it a point to share some
laughs with the one you love.
- Get
Connected. Sometimes when we’re stressed and busy (especially
after a new baby or other major change), it can cause us to feel more
detached in our relationships. If you make it a point to find time
for emotionally nurturing conversations, you’ll feel more connected
and most likely more amorous with your partner. Also, if you talk about
what stresses you and get it off your chest, you won’t be burdened by the
excess stress your problems bring, and you’ll feel closer to your
partner. Unresolved relationship issues can lead to low libido.
- Set
The Mood. Music, aromatherapy, and a soothing environment
can all help set the tone for relaxation and romance. A little preparation
can yield some great results!
- Start
Slow. You might want to start by trading massages, which can
really loosen you and your partner up and release pent-up tension while
helping you feel more connected. Then see where things lead...
Tips:
- It may
take a while for "that lovin' feelin' " to come back. Be patient
with yourself, and let things progress naturally.
- Remember
that romance, physical connection and even playfulness are also important
in a relationship, and all help lead to a stronger sexual relationship.
Conversely, sex in the context of a bad relationship (or no relationship)
won't necessarily make you feel better, and could actually create more
stress. That's not what I'm recommending!
- If you
try these suggestions and still find yourself with a low libido, you may
be suffering from an undiagnosed health problem or perhaps be dealing with
some emotional 'stuff' or relationship issues. Don't be afraid to talk to
your doctor or a couples counselor, who can help with these issues.
Sex is a good stress reliever.. Read, Sex
as a Stress Management Technique.
